Think to Your Beginnings

The Blog has returned!

It’s been awhile since The Blog has been posting, and what better way to start of this great new revival with talking about where it all began, talking about our foundations and our beginnings.

The whole culture of Fraternity and Sorority Life is centered around our foundations and beginnings, those first groups of women and men who said “Let’s start something different.” on college campuses across the country. Those men and women created organizations built on strong foundations and values which have transcended the decades into our organizations today.

Or at least they should.

Because it’s easy to forget our beginnings sometimes. They get bogged down by the weight of what is currently happening, what is being done in the present moment, and the “trends” that might be happening in our community. But sometimes these things are so far from our values and beliefs that our true purpose, our true core, becomes clouded and we have to do a lot of soul-searching and digging to find it again.

How do we avoid all of that? Because let’s be honest, it’s not the best thing to do.

Well we prevent ourselves from getting there in the first place. We reminder ourselves “Dose this align with the values and foundations of my organization?” or “Would my founders be proud of what I am doing right now?”

Every action has a series of choices and consequences that we must face in the aftermath of our actions.

So remember your beginnings. Don’t let them get bogged down by what is popular or what other people are doing.

Be different. Be unique. Be your values.


Brother Lemos


Social Education

Why am I still in my fraternity? Throughout various points of my college experience the answer would be completely different. Now as a senior the answer is one a combination of old (friends, stability, social clout, etc.) and one strikingly new – I’m needed to teach.

What I mean by that is that fraternities now more than ever have become imperative for the environments they can provide. An atmosphere in which men let their guard down, open their ears, and speak candidly is much needed. It is no longer acceptable for men, as social power-holding individuals and as a collective to sit idle – unmoved, unbothered, and uninterested in the plight of all those around us. I realized that a fraternity may just very well be the ONE place where men are obligated to stop taking up so much space, to leave their patriarchic ideals at the door, and to have real, vulnerable, authentic conversations about how they view themselves and society. Combine that with the values we swear to uphold and you have the perfect and crucially necessary critical mass to get major social points across. I solemnly swear that I have learned more in my time in college from extracurriculars and organizations than I ever did in the classroom – social education.

Fraternities are supposed to be places where men grow, learn, and connect not only to their brothers and the Greek community they’re apart of but society as a whole. When you emerge from your alma mater you should be prepared to face the world and that means each and everyone in it – with dignity, respect, and fairness. My fraternity preaches brotherhood for all, service to the individual, and democracy – well, that entails literally everyone, and that’s deeply important. The way I treat and interact my brothers is how I should any stranger I may come across. That’s truly profound. How can I apply the same compassion, and camaraderie of people I spent substantial time with to someone I may not know at all? Easy – remember when a new member would join your chapter and instantaneously you had this connection with them? You could joke around, hang out without knowing anything about them, and accepted them as your friend – that quick lesson in social education as in that ability to immediately value a person is one that you must know. You’ll need to apply that to just about anyone you meet because that’s what it means to be HUMAN. We all have immeasurable worth and inherent value – don’t ever forget that.

So what do I teach? My membership in specifically my chapter I think has come to mean a lot. Along with me comes all my experiences, what I’ve learned, and all my complications. Those complications particularly those that challenge my brothers to think about their unearned social privileges, how they’ve played into and benefitted from -ist systems/institutions, and most importantly how they can be allies to subordinated identities, mean more now than ever before. Fraternities are the place to have tough conversations, check yourselves, explore topics, share your beliefs, and to learn about yourselves but also the world around you. The other stuff supports it like understanding how to be a lifelong friend, and doing service of our own volition. With or without brothers who identify as queer, transgender, person of color, modest income, have a disability etc. your fraternity is where you have the freedom and the obligation to talk about what it all means.

Talk about the stuff you usually don’t. Be curious about sexism, racism, homophobia, religious intolerance, and all the rest. Figure out what you can actually do about it. Realize that all of it AFFECTS you too, maybe not negatively but then you’re indicted as benefitting from the putting down of others. I don’t know about you but that’s unacceptable. I promised to be a better man, and in this modern day and age (as it should have always been) that means embracing social justice.

Fraternally Yours,

Brother Oteng

How does your chapter incorporate social justice into their lived values?

Brotherhood Community

Looking Back & Looking Forward

In 6 days, classes will officially end, finals will begin, and my first year of college will come to a close. In these past few days, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting, on how the start to my next four years has turned out. To be honest, there have been many downs, especially in my first semester. But for all those down, amazing, fantastic, wonderful ups have occurred that have made those seem like miniscule specks of the grand picture of my freshman year. With Greek Awards Ball having finished only a few hours ago and even more events to come up in these last few weeks, I’m just starting to break through the surface of what I have gotten myself into when I joined the brotherhood of Phi Mu Delta.

Great Memories:

So far, some of my best memories have been made with my fellow brothers, be it the great bonding experience of our retreat, or the celebration of winning chapter of the year (even though I wasn’t there when we got it). All those memories stick out, along with countless others from outside of PMD such as attending Climb where I made so many new connections with other members of the FSL community as well as learned how to improve our community and be a leader. Or just getting the motivation and drive to become involved more in the UVM community.

Great Friends:

I am so proud and honored to call the men of Nu Gamma chapter my brothers. All of them, be they senior or first year, are some of the greatest men that I have met so far on this college campus. They not only serve as a great support system when needed, knowing how put a smile on my face even if I’m having the worst day imaginable, or just allowing me to come out of my shell and be myself, appreciating and embracing it for all that it’s worth. I joined in hopes of finding a brotherhood like the one a had at summer camp, and I think…no I KNOW that everyone of my brothers has done that and more.

Greater Self:

Like said already, being a part of PMD has allowed me to be who I truly am without fear or ridicule or judgment. Coming to college, my goal was to be myself and not let the fear of social rejection that I had in high school keep me down. But doing that is harder than it looks. So I just retreated into the shell of my dorm room, with the occasional tiny peek out into the light. Now, that shell is gone and hopefully never coming back, because I know that I have a group of brothers who appreciate me for me. I don’t need to be someone different to fit in, or some stereotype to fit what they expect of me. I can be myself.

So I know this all sounds sentimental, like something that one might hear more from a senior about to put away the joys of college and put on their big real world pants, but all this sentimental stuff, that’s the fuel that keeps me going, the fuel that keeps me passionate about being a part of this great organization. And I know that from here, the experience can only get better (hopefully…you never know) and my love for this fraternity and all the men in it will grow. Looking back now, at the first checkpoint on the long hike through the next four years, I have little regrets. There are some that are still there, but they’re the ones that probably were out of my control. In terms of the actions that I personally took and the choices that I made, no regrets whatsoever. And of all these actions, I have no regrets about getting involved and becoming a brother of Phi Mu Delta. Because this organization, and all the brothers in it, will be there through it all.


Don’t Forget To Stay Awesome,

Brother Lemos

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Spoonful of Brotherhood

Check out a special blog post by Brother Oteng recapping and sharing his thoughts on our spring retreat on his blog:

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